Saturday, December 18, 2010

Strange parallels

Recently my mom was in a one-car accident, which caused what was essentially a stroke. When she first woke up, she seemed very alert and able to converse. Since then she has talked less and less, and now comes out with occasional clear sentences every day.

As I talk to my dad, who is there with her, I keep being struck by the similarities with my first years that I knew the twins had autism. They would say something, and then not talk for weeks at a time. It was a kind of torture.

I don't really know if it's true, but I told my dad that I believe my mom still has it all inside her. Right now her body is working on another part of her recovery-- she's getting a lot of physical and occupational therapy. Maybe that's taking all of her brain power right now.

One thing I've found, even though the twins still don't talk much, is that it's ALL still in there. They still know what they used to know, and much, much more. And I'm pretty sure that my mom does, too. It's another situation that calls for more patience than I ever thought I had. Hopefully we'll go back to making progress soon, but meanwhile don't look too far ahead, and find joy in every little good thing that happens.


kristen spina said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

burgiboogie said...

I can't believe everything you are going through right now! I am praying for a full recover for your mom, I am so sorry this is happening to your family. Remember progress is incremental, hope is exponential.

Niksmom said...

I am so sorry about your om's accident and stroke. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Mom to JBG said...

Thank you so much for your concern. We are going up to New York tomorrow.
It seems so strange that she was good at first, and now so much worse, but maybe it is part of the natural healing process. I think she is at a good hospital, and my dad has a good friend who is a retired neuro-surgeon, so she's getting good care.
Thanks again!